Hey, hey, y'all! Lynlee aka Among the Willowz here! You didn't think I would have another blog post ready to go so soon, now did ya?! Well, VOILA! Here I is, sista! It's the new year and watch out, I'm here to brain wash you into loving yourself for 363 more days..maybe even more.
Let's get to the good stuff, am I right? Alright. Show of hands, how many of you can look yourselves in the mirror and say that you genuinely and thoroughly love yourselves? Every "flaw." All of the stretch marks, dimples, rolls, double chins, extra inches of muffin top, your teeth, your skin, your lips, your eyebrows... Do you love what you see? What about inside, how are you feeling? What are you telling yourself? Positive thoughts or are you picking yourself apart?
Wait.. did you? Did you say no? You don't love what you see? You don't love how you feel? Those terrible thoughts, looking at your body in the mirror and wishing you could melt away in the puddle of self pity you have created for yourself. "I'll be poor forever because I didn't go to college." "I'm divorced, damaged goods." "I wish my butt were bigger, my boobs perkier, my stomach flatter!" "I'm so ugly, good Lord, just a fat hog." "Will anyone ever love me, if I can't even love myself?," I mean, it has to be true. That's what everyone says, right? I know the feeling, sugar. I knew that feeling. Most of those are words that I, too, have muttered from my sad lips.
Now do me a favor. Wipe those tears. clear your mind of those negative thoughts, pull your shoulders back and sit up straight. Wanna know why this is pertinent right here, right now in this moment? Because you're a bad ass bitch. That's why. You are thee baddest of all of the bitches, in fact. And we, you and I, we are on a mission to get your mind right so that you can free yourself of any negativity that you have been carrying for so long. This new year is not meant to be weighed down by issues you have been carrying from years past. It's going to be a process, I can promise you that. I can also promise you that once you learn to love yourself, the world is yours. you become invincible & boy is it worth it.
Here's just a couple steps that I have used to help me get on a path to loving myself. I hope that maybe, just maybe these two small actions can help give you a boost on your Journey to loving yourself. You can do this, my gal. I know it!
Try to make a habit of not caring what other people think of you.
For years and years, I used to constantly be worried what others were thinking of me. Whether they thought I was fat, ugly, cute, tan, had perfect teeth, perfect blonde hair, had money, had nice things, had this, had that. Ultimately, I just wanted to be accepted. I was so caught up in being accepted by certain people, that I completely lost myself. I found myself picking myself apart and saying the most despicable words to myself that I wouldn't even begin to say to my worst enemy. To put it frank, I hated myself. I beat myself so far down, that I didn't think my worth amounted to anything. Why am I even living? I'd give anything just to be done with this world. To not have to worry about others. Why don't they like me? What can I do to make them just.. like me for me? Am I really that weird? That unlovable? That answer is no. NO, none of those things are true. You're amazing just the way you are. You just have to see that. My mom has told me, you can be the ripest, juiciest peach in all of the land and someone will still not like peaches. It's true. You will not be for everyone because they do not think like you. They do not live their life like you do. Just because you're on a positive journey, does not mean others are in that place in their lives, too.
My boyfriend and I were talking about a different subject, but he told me that you can start a habit in 20 days with repetition. So you know what I did? I decided to bribe myself into thinking that I don't care what other people think. I started dressing just how I wanted, talking and caring on, just how I wanted. Quit my job, that I only had because I was afraid that by doing what I really wanted to do, that my parents would see me as a failure. Got a job at a recreational marijuana shop, yes I am an advocate and it was the best decision I have ever made. I started being the Lynlee that I am behind closed doors, out in the real world. It was freeing. The moment I started wondering about others and their thoughts on what they see when they look at me, I squashed that thought right there and then I moved on. The days started passing and before I knew it, day 20 passed too. I was already a brighter, happier Lynlee because I was presenting myself to the outside world just how I felt comfortable and guess what? My friends and neighbors hardly said a word! We all know i'm funky, so there are always a few small minds. No doubt. Other than those, nothing but one step closer to a happy me. You see, outsiders won't ever understand your story, but its not for them to understand. It's your life, and if you are causing no harm to anyone or anything, its none of their business. Point, blank, period.
Rid of all things that bring you negative vibes.
I sat down one day and had to really think. Why was I feeling so sad all of the time? What specific things are bringing me discomfort in my life? I got a note pad and I wrote them down. There were jobs, there were bills, there were thoughts, there was clutter, there was procrastination, there were even people. I promised myself that I would step back from all of the things that were in my power to step back from for two weeks. It took me about four days to not constantly think of those things, people and the repercussion it would have on my life to just let them be, let them be.. away from me. Once I did though, I was in a state of pure amazement. I gave up a job that was causing me stress in my wallet and on my commute. Phew, I can breathe a little easier. I cut out someone that only brought me down and never had anything good to bring to the table. PHEW, I can really flow now. Once I cut those two things out, I started tailoring my life to myself. I didn't have anyone or anything to hold me back from doing the things I love. My head was clearer. I could finally apply myself fully to my passion because I had zero negative vibes holding me back. You see, this life is yours. Yours only. No one else has the power to make you happy. Once you understand that and you set out on a path to make yourself happy.. you;ll realize that your only desire is to keep this new found peace, and hell. You may even want to spread it. Please, please do this for yourself. Distance yourself from anything that makes you feel sad, negative, inadequate. The things that are making you feel this way, those things are NOT for you. Once you realize this, its true. Your future is yours to create and your dreams will no longer be dreams because you're now in a head space to make them a reality.
What I am getting at here guys, is don't let outside things effect you on the inside. People don't think of you like you're thinking of them. That's a fact. Once you focus on perfecting yourself, your life, your happiness & well being... you will set yourself free.
I swear it.
Be sure to comment and share if m words helped you in any way. The power of sharing is unreal, we have to get these positive vibes out in the world! AMIRIGHT?!
Happy trails my gal,